I wish the instinctive wariness every time I meet a new person or enter a new environment wasn't second nature to me. I don't mean to be suspicious of people (often even my closest friends and mentors) or second-guess their motives. It's awful. But growing up, I had to second guess all motives. Abuse was … Continue reading Following Christ with PTSD
There's a lot of venom flying in all sorts of directions between generations these days. From the younger generations come the cries that "no one understands us" and "you do you" and "I just need a place where I can be myself." The older generations then counter with "you're all just snowflakes" and "at 18 … Continue reading Are Christians Guaranteed Safe Spaces?
"You could've been a doctor after 8 years of schooling" “Are you going to be employable after you get your Master’s?” I sighed. Cue the waves of regret. These two statements threatened to put a huge damper on any excitement for my upcoming entrance into seminary. Because they’re true. I could've been a doctor in … Continue reading Encouragement for the Indecisive Graduate
I want to begin by saying that I am not shaming you for being single (I am single myself!) but rather pointing out attitudes of the heart that singleness can bring toward marriage that aren't Christ-centered or accurate. #1 You Fear Marriage As I pointed out in my previous article, if fear of anything other … Continue reading Christian, are you Staying Single for the Wrong Reasons?
#1- You're lonely Marriage won't fix it. [Anonymous interrogator]: But how do you know? You're not married. Because taking sinner x sinner does not equal blissful fulfillment except for maybe all of five minutes. If that were true, there would be no lonely married people and no divorces stemming from "unmet needs." You don't have … Continue reading Christian, do you Desire Marriage for the Wrong Reasons?
The bumps on the wood that lines the hallway of my grandma's house--what was her house, I suppose--are more familiar to me than my own heartbeat. My beloved cousins and I raced those hallways all our lives, playing "Monster" when they were toddlers, "Mother May I" as they matured and finally I would walk … Continue reading To Grandmother’s House We Go No Longer
“A mighty pain to love it is, And 'tis a pain that pain to miss; But of all pains, the greatest pain It is to love, but love in vain.”--Abraham Cowley Crushes are considered a normal part of life. Though often more centered on appearance, they also happen gradually through personal interactions. It's normal to … Continue reading Don’t Let Crushes Crush You
Writing is a beautiful gift. Personally, I've never truly struggled with translating my thoughts into readable material. Words flow nearly as naturally as breathing and I cannot imagine struggling to write several pages let alone a sentence as I know many do. But I've not been given this gift to highlight myself. If I speak … Continue reading Talents Aren’t Noisy Gongs
Often in the American church, gluttony is considered a "sin of the past" or, increasingly more common, not a sin at all. Everywhere you look, more is better. More fries on the side, more burger for your buck, more sauce slathered on everything imaginable. We're encouraged to gorge at our slightest whim or achievement with … Continue reading Too Much Food, Too Little Stewardship
[An imaginary letter/writing exercise/coping mechanism/processing outlet] Dear Miss Right, I've met you many times. I felt like such an outcast in college because I wasn't you. And I still do. You're the girl who grew up in a decent (or maybe even pretty nice) house with her parents and maybe a sibling or two. Your … Continue reading To The Girl with the Perfect Life