Some of the deepest hurts in mourning are not that you mourn what is no longer here but that you mourn that there are no more tomorrows —no more chances to laugh together, to snuggle together, to playfully banter back and forth. Death severs the ability for new memories to be made and also dampens … Continue reading A Short Reflection on The Lord’s Grace to Me This Christmas
I know I've had an extended hiatus from writing since February but I hope to be back now with at least some regularity. I turned 26 last week and am writing this short, belated birthday post about my three regrets of the past five years and my three hopes for the next five years. The … Continue reading On Turning 26
"Follow your dreams" If there's one statement that sums up the overall American mindset for the last hundred years, it's that. A relic from our ancestors' "American dream," exalting dreams to a status they neither deserve nor can fulfill is almost in our blood. And for the follower of Christ, dreams must first be submitted … Continue reading Dreams Ought Not be god
"Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight."--Romans 12:15 Do weddings stir up pain for you or make you uncomfortable? Though my joy overflows for the bride and groom, I usually burst into … Continue reading The Hard Path of Choosing Rejoicing over Envy
It's an understatement to say that beauty or "hotness" if you will is one of America's most precious and invasive gods. Everywhere. Six packs and bulking arms. Legs longer than my torso and flat stomachs abound. We're constantly embroiled in these messages. These messages truly make it seem as if there's only one way to … Continue reading Are You Willing to Die to Having a “Hot” Spouse?
In many ways, walking with Christ recently has been more like licking a dry creek bed and choking on its dust rather than being filled with living water. I don't feel loved by Him. I can hardly bring myself to care about the things He cares about. For the first time in the six years … Continue reading God, Help Me Call You Wonderful Again!
I wish the instinctive wariness every time I meet a new person or enter a new environment wasn't second nature to me. I don't mean to be suspicious of people (often even my closest friends and mentors) or second-guess their motives. It's awful. But growing up, I had to second guess all motives. Abuse was … Continue reading Following Christ with PTSD
There's a lot of venom flying in all sorts of directions between generations these days. From the younger generations come the cries that "no one understands us" and "you do you" and "I just need a place where I can be myself." The older generations then counter with "you're all just snowflakes" and "at 18 … Continue reading Are Christians Guaranteed Safe Spaces?
"You could've been a doctor after 8 years of schooling" “Are you going to be employable after you get your Master’s?” I sighed. Cue the waves of regret. These two statements threatened to put a huge damper on any excitement for my upcoming entrance into seminary. Because they’re true. I could've been a doctor in … Continue reading Encouragement for the Indecisive Graduate
I want to begin by saying that I am not shaming you for being single (I am single myself!) but rather pointing out attitudes of the heart that singleness can bring toward marriage that aren't Christ-centered or accurate. #1 You Fear Marriage As I pointed out in my previous article, if fear of anything other … Continue reading Christian, are you Staying Single for the Wrong Reasons?